I stand in front of the mirror with a black sharpie, with my
shirt hiked to my upper ribs. I pull the skin around my belly taut and dig the
marker into my abdomen, as I slowly begin to write the backwards B, which in
the mirror, looks forward facing.
This was my assignment from E, the transformative coach with
whom I had just spent an hour rambling about the past 4 years of my life, the
many changes, studying yoga, the issues with my marriage, and what I see as my
“What do you want for yourself?” She asks.
“I want a book deal,” I say without hesitation.
“You’ll get one,” she answers nonchalantly, “And it will
My heart flutters at the thought of quickly.
“But first, you need to believe on every level that this is
yours. So here’s what I want you to
do. Take a sharpie and write book deal
across your solar plexus. Write it
backwards so that you can see it in the mirror. Make the book deal an extension
of you. Literally. And invite the kids
to write a word or phrase on their bellies,” she added. “They could use a little empowerment right
After my session, the kids and I head toward the mirrored
closest doors in the playroom and write our words. My cheerleader writes “Win,” while the Dude
writes “Toys.” My little one writes “Love
and Friends,” but she is bothered by the marker and scrubs it off in the tub
later that evening.
Mine has faded a few times since Monday, but I’ve gone to
the trouble of filling it back in.
I’ve taken to my backwards Book Deal tattoo.
It reminds me of the bigger picture, beyond my current daily
grind, and the learning curve that I’m facing right now, with all of my
It reminds me that I’m entitled to pursue the things I
really want, and it allows me to feel gratitude for being honest enough with
myself to acknowledge that I really want them. How many of us bury our desires because
they’re too scary or downright inconvenient?
And now, I must remind myself to go work on my book outline,
because the only way I’m getting a book deal is if I actually write this book.
Besides, E. wants a progress report on Monday.
How do you motivate
yourself to get closer to your goals?
Have you ever
tattooed a word or phrase on your body for motivation?
And most importantly,
will you buy my book? 🙂