My Big Bad Belly Tattoo

Book Deal

I stand in front of the mirror with a black sharpie, with my
shirt hiked to my upper ribs. I pull the skin around my belly taut and dig the
marker into my abdomen, as I slowly begin to write the backwards B, which in
the mirror, looks forward facing.

This was my assignment from E, the transformative coach with
whom I had just spent an hour rambling about the past 4 years of my life, the
many changes, studying yoga, the issues with my marriage, and what I see as my
ideal future.  

“What do you want for yourself?”  She asks.

“I want a book deal,” I say without hesitation. 

“You’ll get one,” she answers nonchalantly, “And it will
happen quickly.” 

My heart flutters at the thought of quickly. 

“But first, you need to believe on every level that this is
yours.  So here’s what I want you to
do.  Take a sharpie and write book deal
across your solar plexus.  Write it
backwards so that you can see it in the mirror. Make the book deal an extension
of you.  Literally. And invite the kids
to write a word or phrase on their bellies,” she added.  “They could use a little empowerment right

After my session, the kids and I head toward the mirrored
closest doors in the playroom and write our words.  My cheerleader writes “Win,” while the Dude
writes “Toys.”  My little one writes “Love
and Friends,” but she is bothered by the marker and scrubs it off in the tub
later that evening.

Mine has faded a few times since Monday, but I’ve gone to
the trouble of filling it back in.

I’ve taken to my backwards Book Deal tattoo.

It reminds me of the bigger picture, beyond my current daily
grind, and the learning curve that I’m facing right now, with all of my
logistical challenges.

It reminds me that I’m entitled to pursue the things I
really want, and it allows me to feel gratitude for being honest enough with
myself to acknowledge that I really want them. How many of us bury our desires because
they’re too scary or downright inconvenient?

And now, I must remind myself to go work on my book outline,
because the only way I’m getting a book deal is if I actually write this book.

Besides, E. wants a progress report on Monday.

How do you motivate
yourself to get closer to your goals?

Have you ever
tattooed a word or phrase on your body for motivation?

And most importantly,
will you buy my book?   🙂

Namaste, Divas! 


My Big Bad Belly Tattoo — 38 Comments

  1. I would buy a whole slew of your books. The thought of it makes me giddy. It’s funny that you write about this because recently, I’ve been having these conversations with people and they keep telling me that I need to fully believe and embrace my goal first, believe that I’m worthy of it and manifest it in my mind. And you know what, I put it off. I chalk it up to being busy but I have a feeling it’s more that I’m scared.

  2. I would buy your book even though I don’t know what its about ;). I have been thinking alot lately about what I really want. Once I work it out maybe I will pick up that sharpie.

  3. Great piece and great reminder to us all. I often get so caught up in the the logistics of getting everyone through their day that I completely forget to ask the universe for what I want. Sometimes I feel guilty asking for anything because life is a blessing in itself.
    BUT, I know in my gut(ha,ha)that in order to feel fulfilled in this life I need to put forth the energy for what I want out of this life-for me.
    And yes I would buy your book. I look forward to that day !

  4. Love this! Several months ago I wrote the Robert Frost quote “miles to go before I sleep” on my left wrist with a Sharpie and walked around with it for days. It was empowering to see it every time it poked out of my sleeve or I checked the time on my watch, and it kept me grounded at a time when I felt like I had no direction. Sometimes I think about getting it permanently tattooed but then I realize that it’s unnecessary because I carry that message deep inside always. It’s the same for you too because you want it bad enough. I think you’ll get your book deal- you’re a beautiful writer! I’d definitely get your book. 🙂 Keep at it and good luck with your outline!

  5. I love this! I’m actually working on a book proposal right now…sort of, I need to get back to it. I might write the same thing on my belly. How empowering! Oh, and I’d totally buy your book. 🙂

  6. Well, you DO have an awesome title. 😉
    Maybe I need a tattoo, too. I would love one that says “book deal” but I don’t think I’d get the same “quickly” response! Maybe “clarity” would work. Though “toys” has its appeal, too. 🙂
    You GO, grrrrl. 🙂

  7. This is the best tattoo ever.
    There are a lot of ambitions that I have but with being sick, being a mom, dying to find air under piles of laundry etc…all of those things that I dream about achieving get lost in the shuffle.
    I need to do this. Thank you.

  8. a) Can I have your flat belly? I lost mine a few months ago. 😉
    b) Yes, I will buy your book. And when I need to empty my brain, I practice yoga or write! Same as you.
    c) I don’t have any tattoos, but I almost tramp-stamped an ohm several years ago when I was depressed and looking to feel something, anything. Glad I didn’t do that.
    Keep up the good work!

  9. You are so much braver than I! I just couldn’t bare my midriff and photograph it for the world to see! I have no doubt you will get your book deal, as you have so much to share!
    Regarding the bad nutrition? Once in a while doesn’t hurt, I think. We always believed the emotional lift from the joy we got from a night out was well worth the fries, cookies, etc.

  10. Yes. I will buy your book…because if your blog is any indication of what’s to come in your book, I might buy a few as gifts. 😉
    I love that you’re SEEING your goal in the mirror…staring back at you…reminding you of your dreams and what YOU want. 🙂 I might have to do this…

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