Category Archives: Happiness is an Inside Job

The Fierce Diva Guide to Gift Giving

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I would not be serving my purpose if I did not remind you on a regular basis that a Fierce Diva never spends  beyond her means.   Many Divas I know can budget for themselves yet they get into trouble when buying gifts for other people.  For those of you whose finances fly out of balance at Christmas time or to buy wedding or birthday presents, remember this: Fierce Divas do not have to give expensive gifts  - especially expensive gifts that they cannot afford – to express love, admiration, friendship, gratitude,  or congratulations.  The monetary value of a gift is … Continue reading →

When Diva Gets Dumped

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When Diva Gets Dumped: An Original Play in One Act, by The Fierce Diva  SCENE ONE (Distraught DIVA, an attractive young woman in casual attire,sits across from DUDE, at a small table in a crowded restaurant. Both have barely touched plates of food in front of them.Dude's body is slightly turned away from Diva. His arms are crossed.) DIVA (Sobbing into a tissue) It's me, isn't it?  What did I do?  DUDE I told you.  You didn't do anything.  DIVA Am I too clingy?  I'm too clingy, aren't I?  DUDE You're not too clingy.  DIVA I'm too independent.   You don't feel needed. … Continue reading →

Diva on the Cheap

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If you read my Fierce Finances post, you already know that Fierce Divas never spend beyond their means.  They don't overspend to make themselves or others happy, because they understand that happiness is not dependent upon our external circumstances.  Fierce Divas especially don't overspend to keep up with the Diva Next Door, because they don't have a need to keep up appearances.  Remember, Divas, appearances are illusions.  Despite her 3-carat diamond ring and perfectly landscaped yard, the Diva Next Door isn't happy.  If she was, she wouldn't be flirting with your husband or posting unflattering pictures of you on Facebook! … Continue reading →

The Diva Next Door

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We all know her.   The neighbor who makes comments like, "I see you're not pruning those bushes as much as you used to."   The PTO mom who tags the most unflattering Facebook picture of you from the school gift auction.  The "frenemy" who flirts with your husband.  The co-worker who takes credit for your idea.   She's the Diva Next Door. Let's not confuse the Diva Next Door with the Girl Next Door, that kind, wholesomely pretty, all-American archetype.    The Diva Next Door is that woman or (women) in your life whose mission is to undermine you, or at least that's … Continue reading →

Finding Your G(ratitude)-Spot

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Every Diva deserves to find her G-Spot.  You know, that very special place in her mind devoted to gratitude.   Yet, to some Divas, discovering their G-Spots can be trickier than locating that other G-spot.  But in both cases, persistence pays off.  Here's the secret to finding your G-Spot that most people don't understand.   Gratitude is not the result of life bringing us boundless luck and good fortune.  It is an attitude we have to cultivate regardless of what life hands us.  In an earlier post of mine entitled Fierce Finances,  I made the following  statement: Happiness is not dependent upon … Continue reading →

Fierce Finances

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If there is one Fierce Diva cardinal rule of finances,  it is that Fierce Divas never, EVER spend beyond their means. This holds especially true if you are stretching beyond your budget to purchase luxury items.   To be clear, a vacation is a luxury item.  A gym membership is a luxury item.  A restaurant meal is a luxury item, as is a new pair of shoes.  I see Divas over spend for 2 reasons.  The first is to make others happy.  Our Diva feels she "has to" bring a toy every time she visits her niece, or that it's her … Continue reading →

Fierce Thinking

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"Happy" is not my default temperament.  As a matter of fact, I spent years and thousands of dollars in therapy seeking it, with the hopes that the person sitting opposite my couch would help me find that one "great insight" that would shine the light on ever-after contentment.   While my work in therapy did not afford me "happily ever after,"  it led to a self awareness of my destructive personality/behavior patterns (i.e., my "low self esteem" leads me to pick unavailable men, my "fear of failure" keeps me in low-paying, dead-end jobs , etc.)  Self awareness is helpful,  but it … Continue reading →